Eager anticipation (hope) is good

There is nothing wrong with eagerly anticipating and hoping for a successful outcome on the ¹good (Godly) things we seek and desire. 

Hope is actually a significant element of the gospel and a key part of what moves us to pray.

But we must also remember that God knows what is best. He alone sees the end from the beginning.  Whenever we pray we must always remember it is "...not my will but yours be done" that we should be seeking. We must recognize His will ultimately is always best no matter how it may appear the opposite. We may never see what that best is until we are in eternity with Christ. But we can know that conforming us to the image of Christ is always God's ultimate goal. Why? So we might experience - both now but especially in eternity - the Father's infinite love for us in the same way Christ experiences it.

He also knows how our hearts are inclined towards obtaining the blessings of life and not the Blesser. He knows whether giving us the desires of our heart will draw us away from Him or closer to Him... we don't, we only think we know. 

He knows our heart far better than we do. We must trust He is always working for both our greatest good and His highest glory in light of His infinite wisdom and a full understanding of our heart. We must always remember He is our greatest good and greatest joy, not a particular outcome of our chosing.

We get off the path when our hopes deteriorate into ²demands. God owes us nothing - though He loves to give us all things - and we can demand nothing from Him. Who has ever given to God, that God must repay them? Everything we are and have is a gift - i.e. by grace alone.

When we desire God above everything else, our desires align with His and his desires become ours. When they do, he gives us what we desire. But He alone knows when our hearts are truly and fully submitted to him. 

The bottom line? God desires we trust him even as Christ trusted Him regardless of what He does or does not give.

For a further discussion on hope click here.

For a further discussion on prayer click here.

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¹Such as a good and godly marriage or godly children; our business to be productive; to have a significant impact for God through our work, in our Christian community or other social interactions. These are all good and godly hopes but even these can get out of balance and "go south" i.e.  They can shift from being a secondary desire to our primary one.

Such as when Elijah challenged the prophets of Baal and won. God moved in a powerful way through Elijah and "showed up" the prophets of Baal. No doubt Elijah hoped this would result in Israel and it's King and Queen turning back to God (a very good hope). But they did not turn back. Because things did not go as Elijah hoped he went into hiding and a deep depression. The queen (Jezebel) had not only refused to turn to God but swore to take his life for defeating Baal her god.

²This is also where Job went off the rails. Overtime his desire for something good and valid (an explanation from God for his suffering) deteriorated into a demand. He eventually repented and recognized all he had was from God to begin with and that God owed him nothing, not even an explanation.

Unbelief diminishs us

Because of our rebellious distrust of God and our subtle but passionate desire to make life work without him, we are no longer in a relationship with Him (as we were meant to be) and experiencing His infinite love (the necessary spiritual nourishment we were created and designed to have) with all the delight, bliss, and strength that comes from being connected to Him. As a result, we are stunted in our abilities and ¹never develop to our full God given potential. We are ¹far less than we were created to be. 

This is true not only spiritually and emotionally, but physically. As our health declines with age, we experience disease and eventually die. None of this was part of our original design. 

As well, our senses and abilities are only a fraction of what they were meant to be and we have the potential for (and will one day be if we are in Christ. In Christ, all of this will one day ultimately be reversed and eliminated).

If we are not restored to God, our diminishing abilities and the negative results will continue beyond our present existence and only increase. We will become even more fragmented, diminished and entrenched in the negative dispositions we now have and display, e.g. frustration, anger, fear, anxiety, depression, indifference to or even hatred of God, etc. 

Without connection and union with the Source of love and life we are like spiritual and emotional black holes collapsing in on ourselves from the void left by God's absence. We will only increase in our sense of emptiness. This will become even more acute over time with no chance of relief.

In our current existence we at least experience occasional temporary relief through the use of the various gifts that God gives us - both internal and external - but always with a constant search and hope for more (this drives all our actions when we are not connected and in union with God). 

In our next existence, without our Creator or access to His creation, we will be fully given over to our own devices and have no such experience or hope of love. We will have no access to the external gifts or the ability to exercise the internal ones, but only an perpetual longing and thirst for love - now masked by the use of God's gifts. This will be our hell.

So what is our problem? 

In this life, we try to build our sense of identity, meaning, purpose, and value trhrough ²everything but God. He is not our focus, His creation is - with access to and use of all the gifts this life brings us. 

However, created things are finite. We were created for the infinite.

If we refuse God's offer (again our choice) to restore us back to Him and our ³true identity, we will go into eternity continuing on this current trajectory. The difference is we won't have all the resources, blessings, and gifts we now enjoy and use to maintain our independence from God. 

Absent God, we attempt to use all things to maintain our sense of identity, meaning, value, and purpose. We are like rebellious children using all the good things our parents give us to avoid the very ones who gave them to us i.e. our parents.

If we return to God and abandon our rebellious attempts to make life work without Him, we will be restored to the true purpose of our existence, and experience our greatest potential, fulfillment, and the delight He longs to give us (you) in Him. Will you return?

"The Spirit and the Bride say, 'Come.' And let the one who hears say, 'Come.' And let the one who is thirsty come; let the one who desires take the water of life without price." - Rev 22:17

Are we truly rebels against God? For more click here.

Does God love rebels? Click here and find out. 

For a further discussion on why hell is our choice click here.
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¹Not unlike a malnourished child genetically encoded to be a genius or an exceptional athlete who never developed to their full potential. As a result, they developed with less than average intelligence or become wheelchair-bound because they never received the proper nourishment they needed and were designed to have.

²We use all the good gifts of God - meant to show us his love - to maintain our independence from God. Not unlike a rebellious child using the good things his parent provides to betray his parents.

³His beloved image bearers who are designed to partake in the community of love between the Father, Son, and Spirit - and all the delight that comes with and in it - in the same way they do (because we are like Him).

condemnation removed - righteousness assigned

We have two subtle and deeply embedded needs. We need relief from guilt, shame, and a sense of failure. We also need to know we are valuable, significant, worthwhile. The former removes something bad from us, and the latter asserts or gains something good for us. 

Though these are separate needs, they are connected. The former (guilt/shame/failure) eats away and diminishes our sense of the latter (value/significant/worth). To fail at a task is to feel worthless; a loser as they say. *Guilt and a sense of worthlessness are directly tied together. 

When we speak of Christ's work for us, we usually focus on the former - God's removal of the just condemnation for our **rebellion. Our greater awareness of this need, more than the need for a sense of value, maybe due to our constant and deeply embedded feelings of guilt and shame. Being ***relieved of pain (shame) can feel more urgent than gaining something we strongly desire (importance) e.g. We are not going to be concerned about our appearance or achievements right after dropping a large rock on our toe. 

For this reason, the need for being valued and significant is not often thought about when we consider all that Christ offers us but is at least equal to, if not more important when it comes to our long-term faithfulness to God. 

Christ lived a life of perfect faithfulness (obedience) to His Father - never-failing and always succeeding - to the point of feeling abandoned by His Father and enduring the most shameful death. This perfect life of faithful obedience is now fully assigned-credited to us as if we lived His life of perfect faithfulness if we accept his offer. When we do we are viewed by God as perfect in our faithfulness - even though we are far from it. 

We are now equally admirable and loved by the Father as Jesus is. This isn't a feeling, it's an objective reality. It is how God sees us if we are in Christ. 

John 15:9 as the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love.

How would we describe the Father's love for His Son? Whatever way we describe it, it is the same love the Son has for us. This kind of love is not possible unless we are perfect in God's eyes. A perfection lived out by Christ and fully assigned-credited to us. Just as Christ was treated as the rebels we are - wholly condemned - we are now seen as a perfect and complete success the same way Christ is - wholly accepted and approved of. 

For an extended discussion of our guilt and shame, click here and here.

For a further discussion on being hard-wired for greatness, click here. 

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*Depression is the result of a deep sense of failure and guilt, leading to a feeling of worthlessness. If this is left unaddressed, it can lead to suicide.

**i.e. Our rebellious distrust of God. Distrust leads to unfaithfulness in giving God his rightful and due recognition as the one and only all-glorious God worthy of all thanks.

***The most successful people in business I have known over the years said they were driven far more by fear of loss than a desire for gain. 

Competition… Good or bad?

Is competition helpful or unhelpful? It can be either or both.

Unhelpful competition is rooted completely in performance for the sake of praise and approval of others. In this scenario, my sense of value is tied directly to doing better than the next person. If I do, I feel worth something and if not; I don't. In a word, if I don't win/produce/perform, I am a "loser." I am useless and worthless. My sense of value rises and falls on others' opinions about my performance.

Competition is so much a part of America's psyche and value system (even more so with older generations who didn't get "participation" trophies) that we often are not even aware of it. Just think of how ¹many folks are glued to their TV on the weekends watching a sports event or game of one kind or another. Maybe more than most, Americans love to win and we love a "winner."

Yet, basing our value on beating the competition is the exact opposite of the Gospel. Our true significance or value is based 1st on who we are as image bearers of God and not what we do. Our good standing and approval by God are based on Christ's efforts and performance, not ours. God's acceptance of us has nothing to do with our performance. In fact, our performance, in this instance, is an affront to the work of Christ. It says His efforts were insufficient for God to receive us, so we must "help him out."

And who are we? We are in God's image and if we are in Christ; we are the beloved children of the all-loving, all-powerful, always present, all-wise, and all-glorious Creator, the most valuable person in the universe.

If we are infinitely valued by the infinitely valuable, what does that say about our value? And if God, the infinitely valuable, cherishes us, how much does it matter what others say or think? That would be putting more weight on the opinion of someone who knows and cares nothing about you vs someone who has perfect knowledge about you and knows and cares about you perfectly. If our happiness rises and falls on the approval and praise of others, we should reassess our understanding of God's infinite love for us, i.e. we may not fully "get it" yet.

When is competition helpful?

Should we live productively with excellence? Yes, because God is most valuable -- most high/excellent and most deserving of our best e.g. all heart, soul, mind, and strength. How we conduct ourselves either honors or dishonors God. By living excellently out of a desire to honor him -- because he first honored/loved us -- we put on display God's great worth/honor. We do not compete to gain the praise, love, and approval of others by being "better" than someone else, but because we already are important, valued, loved, and approved by God, stirring in us the desire to honor him in all we say and do.

Competition can be helpful by bringing the best out of us. It pushes us to be the best we can be. It can raise our level of belief/confidence in what image-bearers are capable of. How much more so, those who are driven by the love and praise of God vs the love and praise of men.

We should welcome competition with others who are better than us. If we are secure in the love of Christ, we will.

When someone excels, it demonstrates a higher level of excellence that ²can be achieved in a given activity.  It raises the bar and sets a higher standard, inspiring others and us to do better. It brings the best out of us and gives us an **example and a higher target to aim for.

When we approach competition in this way, it isn't devastating when we lose. -- If it is, this is a clue that our identity and sense of value are too tied to our beating the other person. We may be disappointed we didn't do better, but only because we know we can and didn't. 

How is this different from typical competition? It is not a matter of being better than someone else but of being inspired to be the best "me" we can be.

When competition challenges us to become better, this is good and helpful. We should welcome and even seek this. Seeking to be the best we can be stretches us to use our gifts/skills to their greatest capacity, i.e. becoming the best stewards of what we are entrusted with -- honoring the giver of those skills.

In Chariots of Fire, Eric Liddell had it right when he said: "...to win is to honor Him..."

For more on living with excellence, click here. 

For more on the necessity of great effort, click here. 
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¹Why is watching sports so popular? Not only because we like proving our value by beating the other guy or gal, but we draw our sense of identity from our team being better than the other team. If we don't have the time or are not good enough to play ourselves, we do the next best thing, we cheer for "our team" and feel important when our team wins and feel like a "loser" when they don't. Some folk's identity is so tied up in a sports team that they even get depressed or angry when their team doesn't win. Someone I knew well would go into a deep depression every time their team lost.

²You may have read or recall for years, several attempted to break a sub-4-minute mile. Eventually, Roger Bannister did it. Within weeks, many followed suit, even though attempts to break it before that had been a goal for years. Why? He raised the bar and showed it could be done, helping others to believe they might be able to do it also, inspiring all runners to achieve greater speeds. 

Being a victim or playing one

Being a victim and "playing the victim" is not the same. Being a victim is rooted in the reality of being harmed i.e. you or someone else was really and truly hurt and suffered a loss of some kind - physically, emotionally, materially, reputation wise etc. - at the hands of another i.e. an offender. 

"Playing the victim" however is rooted in self-pity and seeking to garner the pity of others by using the harm-pain the victim has experienced to gain sympathy and even attempt to use it manipulate others. Someone may have been genuinely hurt, but "playing the victim" uses "victimhood" often to ¹exact revenge or seek a benefit (or both) from others in order to self-comfort or self-protect.

Being harmed is real as well as wrong and should be fully acknowledged and recognized for what it is. This is ²necessary to help the victim be freed from the offense, - i.e. to be able to forgive the offender - learn what they can through it - about God's forgiveness or self-forgiveness etc. - and move on with their life. 

Seeking self-pity by playing the victim is simply an attempt to self-love instead of depending on and looking to the God of love who ultimately uses all things - including offenses - for the good of those who love him.

Possibly the most important thing to know about unforgiveness (i.e. refusal or trouble in letting go of offenses) is it may be an indication you do not know your own great offenses against God (and others) and the forgiveness offered to you. 

For more on God's solution to offenses click here.

For a discussion on racism and forgiveness click here.

For a discussion on values, culture and racism click here.

For a personal story of being a victim of discrimination click here.

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¹I would suggest a great deal -- though certainly not all that drives the victim agenda in various forms -- sometimes referred to as "social justice" - e.g. "me too" "black lives matter" "men or whites are evil" feminism, racism, etc - is this very desire to hurt others because we have been hurt. To say it succinctly, playing the victim is usually rooted in revenge due to bitterness over past offenses. 

Though there are real issues (offenses) we must look at in all attempts at justice, we can not see offenses clearly until the underlying emotional hurt is addressed first i.e. forgiven. 

Anger/revenge rarely produces objective or clear thinking, no matter what position one takes on different issues. There is unrighteous anger on all sides of the political spectrum.

Any agenda driven by retaliation or retribution is not driven by love. No matter how offended we have been we are still called to love others... even our enemies. Christ modeled this himself best while hanging on the cross when he said "Father forgive them for they know not what they do" to those who put Him there. 

One remains in pain if a wound goes unaddressed/unhealed. This is why emotions are just under the surface for those in pain and easily triggered and so passionately vented when a new offense occurs - even if no offense actually occurred or was intended. When there is a real offense, often the response is out of proportion to the offense for those with a victim disposition and mentality. This is our first clue there is unresolved anger/bitterness from past offenses. A response-reaction that comes out of pain is never a rational one but almost always excessive and emotional e.g. filled with anger, hate, etc. 

People are often not able to explain why they are so easily triggered out of proportion to the offense because of it's deep roots (that fester up to the surface and are often ready to erupt at the slightest provocation). 

What is the solution? 

Forgiveness that springs forth from our being forgiven by God. This is so basic it is a major part of the Lord's prayer.

11 Give us this day our daily bread, 12 and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. 13 And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Matthew 6:11-13 (ESV)

²in order to truly and fully forgive and completely be freed we must know the full extent of the harm. To say it another way, if we forgive a small offense when a large one actually occurred, we are not getting to the bottom of the issue and therefore can not be fully freed from it. Forgiveness must be equal to the offense. 

Of course even more fundamental is recognizing the extent of our own offense against God himself and the length to which he went to remedy it... and did,  in and through Christ.  Without a clear understanding of our own offense to God and the full extent of his forgiveness of us, we can never truly and fully forgive others.

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Question...How do you feel about the picture to the right? Some may find it highly offensive. If you do, this actually serves to underscore my point. You may wish to dig inside a little to understand why. If you find yourself "triggered," angry or even feeling rage by this card, it may be a good indication you have unresolved bitterness over past offenses. 

You may be bothered by the picture for another reason. 

It is right to have compassion for those who have been harmed or broken in some way. Christ certainly did. Some may feel this picture mocks this and are bothered for this reason. And that is good. Not that you are offended, but that you care. A significant part of Christ's ministry was to heal those who were damaged - more so from physical than emotional pain, though these are often connected and not entirely separate. The pain people feel is real and deserves being acknowledged for what it is i.e. the fruit of living among broken people, in a broken world, and the harm that comes to us as a result. 

The pain of others should matter to us because it mattered to Christ. It matters to him because he also wrongfully suffered at the hands of others far more than any of us. 

When our pain produces humility we are on the road to healing. If it produces anger, anxiety, depression, etc we may have some work to do yet. 

I personally think the above card is a clever and appropriate analogy of how some use past offenses to "cash in" on their suffering. So would call this "playing the victim card." 

This would be more true of the "leaders" of the "victim movement" themselves, than the actual victims.

Driven by shame

Those who try to shame others into behaving the way they desire (i.e. to control them with shame) are themselves usually influenced or driven by shame (i.e. guilt feelings). We do who we are.

Why do most of us operate out of shame? 

The further away from God's ¹design we operate, the greater our guilt (real guilt vs guilt feelings). The greater our guilt feelings - i.e. sense of shame - the more it drives us and becomes our modus operandi -- the way we operate i.e. our actions are driven by guilt and shame instead of love as we were designed to operate.

Instead of seeking God to help us change the behavior that results in our shame, we often seek to get others to approve our behavior to find relief. We may not like the consequences of conduct that violates our design, but we like having no restrictions on our choices even less.

Because we are designed to ²give and receive love but cannot do so -- unless "plugged in" to the Source of love -- we never operate as we were designed, but are always operating with guilt and shame -- though we typically are not fully conscious of it unless some event triggers and surfaces it.

The more we operate out of shame the lower our sense of value/worth i.e. The more worthless we feel. This process often leads to depression and can ultimately lead to suicide if not addressed.

This is why we are constantly trying to do things to make us feel better about ourselves; to feel more important/ significant. We are in a constant state of pain and shame and always looking to relieve it.

As a result, we try to avoid things that make us feel worthless and cause shame -- like admitting we failed to accomplish a desired goal or are wrong when we mistreat others.

The only way to break free from this cycle of bondage, guilt, and shame is the grace of God -- the good news/gospel -- found in Jesus Christ alone.

For a further discussion of why we avoid the cause of guilt and shame click here.

For a further discussion of the cause and removal of guilt and shame click here.

For a discussion on the futility of engaging in guilt and shame click here and here.

For a discussion on our being designed for greatness/glory click here and here. 

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¹we are like God, designed for love. God is love, giving and receiving it back again. We need love (God); to receive it (Him) and reflect it to others and back to Him. We are most complete when we operate in this way - as we are designed to.

² "Positively" by outdoing/outperforming others. 

Negatively, by criticizing others to feel better about ourselves.

As God's rebellious image bearers, we run on empty (due to our rebellion) because we are disconnected from the Source of love. As a result, we attempt to get and take love instead of give and receive it as we were designed. At some level, we know this. For a further discussion on this point click here. 

I am putting "positively" in quotes because even though outdoing/outperforming others is considered constructive behavior, it is still behavior in an attempt to bolster our own sense of worth outside of God. This kind of behavior may be positive in the eyes of others but is contrary to who God designed us to be.

Depressed Christians?

Can a mature believer experience depression?

When you recognize that depression is basically due to self-loathing and guilt over an increasingly acute sense of our extreme failure to trust God, yes depression can be and often is a part of the maturing Christians experience, possibly even in greater degrees as we mature because we become increasingly aware of how weak and untrusting of God we can be.

And that is because we are all extreme failures (Rom 3:23. For a fuller discussion click here and here) in trusting God totally.  This is in the godly sense not necessarily in the worldly sense i.e. not necessarily in the eyes of others (by world standards, we may be a great "success") but compared to God's original intended design, we are far from it. 

When we recognize we were in fact created to know God, enjoy him, and show forth his glory, reflecting his love back to him, spreading his love and greatness to other fellow image-bearers as well as all creation (i.e. stewarding the planet) and the scope and significance of this - when none of us even come close to meeting the mark - we began to see the extent of our failure. Who among the most mature of us can say we love God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength and our neighbor as ourselves 24/7? Certainly not me. This awareness increases the more we know God and see our true condition more clearly.

Without the love of God moving us to show forth his glory we are all about ourselves; about self-promotion; being our own god. The very same disposition that Adam and Eve bought into and adopted. In short, we are totally incapable of fulfilling our design unaided... and were never intended to do so. Only by the life and love of God infused in us by His Spirit can we bring forth true, lasting life again (though we can bring temporary life to others and do daily).  

And what was God's warning? The day you seek to operate independently of me - to be your own god - you will die. Die? In what sense did we die? We rejected God, the source of life itself. We "unplugged" from the life source if you will. Our connection with the life and Spirit of God was immediately severed, eventually leading to our physical death. And from that day until now we have not sought to return to the source of life but have been desperately seeking to replace what we lost (God) by being our own god i.e. through self-effort...using creation - internally and externally - as a means. 

However, as God is diffusive (overflowing and out-flowing), we were designed to be diffusive, with one key difference. God is the source of life (Jn 17:3), we are the conduits through which his life flows. First from Him, reflected back to him from the Son, in, by, and through the Spirit, then out to others. If we cut ourselves off from the "life source" we can not and will not spread his love and glory as we were created to. We are empty of the love and life of God. It's simply no longer there to be diffused. We are takers without His love, not the givers we were originally designed to be.

So what then happens to us, as we become more and more *aware of our total spiritual bankruptcy? We feel guilty. And not just because it's some vague sense of self-imposed punishment, but because we are in fact guilty. We do not do what we were designed to do i.e. love God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength and our neighbors as ourselves. This indeed is to greatest and most challenging order (greatest commandment) God gives us. 

 

So as maturing believers, we now battle. We battle with an increasing awareness of the depth of our brokenness hopefully, along with an increasing and matching awareness of the love of God for us as his broken but redeemed, adopted, and perfectly cherished children.  

The irony is our increasing awareness of being perfectly loved because of Christ, allows us to be increasingly honest with how unlovely we truly are. We know God does not and will not reject us due to our brokenness because Christ took our deserved rejection/ banishment and condemnation for us. And this work by him on our behalf is infinitely greater in depth and width than our brokenness (Rom 5:20). Thanks to Christ and his willingly giving himself up to restore us back to our original design.

So we struggle between growing awareness of God's perfect and infinite love and our total and complete desire to operate outside of this love i.e. our rejection of it and embracing self-love in various forms.

I propose that the awareness of our true guilt and any subsequent depression is an opportunity and possibly even a call by God to dig deeper into who Christ is, what he did, and why he did it. It is an opportunity to look hard at the extent of his work on our behalf and come to rejoice in it more and more. Our depression forces us to go back time and again and drink from an infinite, never-ending fountain of God's love and forgiveness. And thanks be to God, his is the final word; our brokenness is not.  

Who are some believers who have admitted to struggles with depression? King David, ("why are you cast down oh my soul..."),  Job, Moses, Elijah, Jeremiah, Jonah, Paul the apostle, Martin Luther. Charles Spurgeon, Henri Nouwen, John Piper to name some better-known believers. All of these great men of faith spoke of struggling with depression.

"For we do not want you to be ignorant, brothers, of the affliction we experienced in Asia. For we were so utterly burdened beyond our strength that we despaired of life itself. Indeed, we felt that we had received the sentence of death. But that was to make us rely not on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. He delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us. On him, we have set our hope that he will deliver us again." 2Co 1:8-10

"We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed; always carrying in the body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be manifested click here in our bodies. 

For we who live are always being given over to death for Jesus' sake, so that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our mortal flesh...

...So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light, momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal."  2Co 4:8-11, 16-18  

For a discussion on healing trauma click here. 

For a discussion on whether pain is normal or just common click here. 

For a discussion on the greater our sin the greater God's grace click here. 

For a discussion on how we have God fully but not all of Him yet click here. 

For a discussion on the difference between good and bad guilt click here. 

For a discussion on how we can experience more of God's love through our suffering click here. 
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*An increasing and deeper awareness of our rebellious independence from God is actually a sign of increasing maturity. 

Self absorbed or God absorbed

Being self-absorbed is empty and void of true life -- it is temporary, erratic, and insufficient.

Being God ¹absorbed is life -- He is the all-sufficient, permanent, and never-failing source of love, life, and all things.

Since God is life, is it any wonder He is constantly calling us to be obsessed with Him; to love Him with all that we have and are and to always bring Him glory? He's calling us to nothing less than being obsessed with life itself because He is life and fullness of life is in Him alone and nothing else. He calls us to Himself because he loves us that much.  

"And this is eternal life (i.e. permanent life. Life without interruption), that they know you the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom you have sent." - Jesus  Joh 17:3

"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.' " - Jesus' response to Phillip. John 14:6

"Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it." - Jesus speaking to the 12 disciples.  Mat 10:39
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¹If this grates on us, it only indicates how bent we are towards being our own god. Who hasn't heard or even made the comment, "a little bit of God is OK but let's not go overboard!" 

However, when you see those fortunate enough to have great success in this life, still have prolonged periods of loneliness and depression; even ending their lives in the midst of such great "success," this should be a clue we were made for more, far more. We were made for infinite love. 

Some have argued we can be so heavenly minded we are no earthly good when it is the other way around. We can not be of any true earthy value until we are totally plugged into the heavenly bliss and glory shared between the Father, Son, and Spirit. Or as Jesus says, "And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.' The second is this: 'You shall love your neighbor as yourself.' There is no other commandment greater than these." - Mar 12:30-31. We can only carry out the latter part of this commandment as we plug into the former.

What's the love of God like

A different kind of love story

After several years of success, Gaige Patiens hit the financial wall during the economic downturn in 2008 -- you may remember, all the bailouts and the like. The San Diego housing market plummeted. Gaige and his wife's southern California house -- valued as high as 720k -- bottomed out at 450k in less than a year after it peaked ... so did his business and marriage. After 3 years of financial hardship -- going from 10k a month of discretionary income to 2k a month short of expenses -- his wife felt Gaige was no longer a good provider and decided to "pull the plug" on their 16-year marriage. Her reason -- God's "hand of blessing" was no longer on him, so she no longer felt obligated to stay in the marriage. She asked him to move out. 

Gaige was bewildered and devastated. He now found himself not only single but due to all the stress of his unexpected new circumstances, his health declined rapidly. He became disabled with frequent joint pain and less than adequate kidney function. Being in his mid-fifties didn't help. After a couple of years of unsuccessful attempts at starting two other businesses, he found himself out of money, homeless, and forced to move to an area where it was less expensive.

A multi-Trillionaire -- yes, with a T -- named Dr. Joshua Finamore (a real estate developer, well-renowned physician, and inventor turned philanthropist) got wind of his plight through his brother Joseph. Joseph had attended one of Gaige's business success seminars and got word on why Gaige was no longer doing seminars i.e. his business and marriage had crashed and burned. Joseph mentioned this to his brother Josh (Joshua) in passing during a conversation on various business ventures. Joe (Joseph) was impressed with Gage and found his seminar very helpful. 

Once Josh heard of Gaige's challenges, he had his people do some digging. They were able to find out where Gaige was now "living." He immediately decided to leave the comforts of his opulent life and show up as a homeless person at an abandoned building in Austin, Texas, where Gaige now lived (Many considered Joshua Finamore somewhat eccentric and a bit crazy. It turns out this wasn't the first time he had done this kind of thing).

Gaige, somewhat puzzled by this unexpected visitor blocking his doorway, was clueless of his true identity. Josh being dressed as an unkempt homeless person needing a good bath, definitely threw him off.  

Josh explained he had no place to stay and asked if Gaige had any room... the couch would be fine. He also offered to help out in any way he could - (for three whole years it eventually turned out). Feeling annoyed but also a little sorry for the guy, Gaige agreed to let him stay for now. "He'll hopefully find his own place after a couple of weeks," Gaige thought.

Even though Josh was homeless with no apparent job, it didn't take long for Gaige to notice Josh mysteriously and miraculously came up with whatever was needed whenever they got into a real bind, just in time but not before. He did this for others in the building as well. The really weird part is Gaige always found this guy up early before everyone else praying, of all things -- something Gaige had given up on soon after things "went south" in his own life. 

At first Gaige was put off by all this "good deed" stuff, but over time he got to know Josh, and eventually got over his distrust -- I mean who would really do all this and not have an ulterior motive, right?! 

As time went on there were other hints of Josh's true identity (bright, skilled with seemingly unlimited resources) but Gaige simply never picked up on it. They just didn't match up with who he thought Josh was. When anything weird or out of character came up, Gaige wrote it off as his overly active imagination or Josh messing with him. Over time, the hints became more obvious to the point that Gaige was beginning to suspect something, but not exactly sure what. It took 3 full years before Gaige finally got around to asking Josh what was going on. Josh was glad to explain about his real identity -- even hoping for the question, and how he heard about Gaige through his brother Joe that attended one of his workshops. He also gave direct hints to his ridiculously unimaginable wealth.

Now he had Gaige's full attention and curiosity. He wondered, "Why was Josh doing this? What was in it for him?" Even though Josh had increasingly dropped hints before, Gaige listened this time and really heard him for the first time. After watching him for three years He had come to trust this guy was for real and genuinely cared about others. Actually, Gaige's increased trust was the main reason he finally heard him.

Josh offered to bring Gaige back to live on his own property so he could rest up and heal. Without giving a lot of details, he told Gaige, "there's plenty of room, in fact, you could even have your own place!" Josh said he'd be nearby in his place and glad to visit any time. Still a little suspicious and cautious Gaige started to get excited and after hearing more agree to go. 

"Could this really be happening!?" wondered Gaige. "Anything was better than the current setup, but this is crazy." He figured what did he have to lose? Plans were made to head out the following day.

In the morning Josh sent Gaige out to grab a few things for the trip. Ironically, while Gaige was away, a gang of drug dealers were in the area looking for Gaige and broke into his place. 

It turns out a few days before Josh showed up 3 years earlier, Gaige had accidentally killed a member of this gang during a botched robbery at their hang out. When Gaige broke in, no one was supposed to be there. But one of the gang members was left behind to guard their stash. When Gaige broke in, they got into a tussle and this member accidentally fell down the stairwell and broke his neck. Gaige checked on him but he was gone. He scrambled out quickly undetected...or so he thought. 

When the gang returned they found their friend dead and put the word out on the streets if anyone saw someone come or go while they were out. Someone nearby said they heard a scuffle and had seen Gaige leave that day. Over 3 years later this same guy spotted Gaige in a different part of town the day before he and Josh were to leave and let the gang know that night. The gang made their plans to go after him the next day, the same day Gaige and Josh were to head out. When the gang arrived they found Josh, not Gaige. After some discussion, they decided to beat Josh to death - since Gaige killed their friend, to get even and send a message to Gaige that he was next.  

When Gaige returned he immediately saw his door had been busted in. Rushing inside he found Josh on the floor badly beaten, bruised, and laying in a pool of blood -- he was still alive, barely. Frantically Gaige rushed out to the street to borrow someone's cell phone and call 911. When he went back in it appeared Josh had stopped breathing. After several minutes trying to revive him, he was about to give up when the paramedics finally arrived. They also tried for several minutes, but it was too late. Josh was gone. The paramedics took Josh's body to the city morgue. 

Gaige was stunned. After several hours of numbness and shock, he reached out to someone he knew that worked at the morgue. Gaige asked if he could help sneak Josh's body out. 

Gaige had no money to give Josh a formal burial and didn't know how to reach his dad -- he just found out the day before that Josh's dad was also extremely wealthy. In the excitement and rush, Gaige never thought to get his dad's contact information. Gaige wound up burying him in a plot offered by the guy at the morgue -- someone Josh helped get the job there a few months back. 

Gaige now had the burden not only of losing his best friend but how was he going to reach his dad. What would his dad wonder if he can't and his son didn't return.

Everything was suffocatingly overwhelming. A heavy depression came over Gaige. Not only had he lost what turned out to be his best friend but Gaiges life was back to a miserable mess again with no hope of change. After three days he couldn't handle it and decided to take his life. As Gaige was pondering how to end it, Josh mysteriously and suddenly showed up in the middle of his room. No knock, no footsteps...nothing. To say Gaige was speechless would be an understatement. Not only was Josh alive but he looked better and stronger than before, almost superhuman. Seeing Gaige's utter confusion and disbelief Josh reached out to hug him saying, "remember the gash in the back of my head? -- bending forward -- Check it out!" Gaige did and sure enough, even though there was a scar, it was better than new. Considering Josh was all bloodied and swollen just three days earlier Gaige was blown away. 

Giving Gaige a few moments to at least partially recover from the shock Josh again extended the offer to come back to live with him. With great relief and excitement, but still puzzled, Gaige quickly agreed -- in case the gang returned -- and grabbed what few things he had and together they headed out, never looking back. 

After a couple days of travel -- Josh covering the cost -- Josh pointed out the plane window an island they were coming up to and said "here we are." "You've got to be kidding me," Gaige accidentally thought out loud while looking out the window.  Finally, after crossing the length of the island they landed on a well-kept private runway. Gaige also discovered Josh didn't just live here but owned the whole island. Not just any island but a pristine tropical island about the size of Kauai. There was literally enough room for thousands of people to live here -- much less one -- without ever bumping into each other. The island was a paradise, loaded with all kinds of fruit trees, some neither he or anyone had ever even seen, along with lush gardens, tons of wildlife -- much of which he didn't recognize, at least not like this (everything he did recognize was bigger, more colorful or more fragrant here). There were also several spring-fed streams that emptied into a couple of huge lakes, bursting with all kinds of fish. There was even a huge snow-covered mountain near the middle of the island. There were waterfalls and valleys everywhere with plenty of level and cleared areas for farming as well. The weather and conditions were perfect, usually in the upper 70's to low 80's by day and low 60's by night. Gaige had never smelled air or tasted water so fresh and invigorating. After a couple of days, he noticed they seemed to infuse new life with every breath and drink.

It turns out, after several days, all Gaige's physical disabilities completely cleared up. In fact, he grew stronger by the day.. Eventually, he was so healed he never get sick again. He no longer had any aches or pains. He also noticed he didn't even get tired anymore. Things got increasingly better as time went on and Gaige actually started to get younger after a few months and revert to his prime in his former life -- around his late 20's -- but even stronger and more alert. He couldn't remember ever feeling better, stronger or more alive. After living there a while he also found out no one dies here, ever. Something about this place -- or maybe it was someone -- kept everyone alive and vibrant.

"This is only part of the landholdings of my dad and me," Josh explained during one of many conversations. After being there several days to let it all soak in, Josh told Gaige, "the island is yours to cultivate, enjoy and share with others. You are also free to come and go to the other places my father and I own. If you wish you even have the option of exploring and cultivating other properties." 

A few days later Josh tells Gaige, "there are others on their own islands nearby." Over time Gaige developed great friendships with all of them, traveling back-and-forth freely between the different islands, enjoying extended stays, visits, adventures, and projects together. What was really cool is he was able to travel by some kind of mental transport if he wanted to (or fly or sail if he preferred, both solar powered). By just thinking it, within seconds he was at the new location. He discovered these new friends had similar stories on how they got there, and his mutual love and adoration for Josh, his former "homeless" friend, grew more with each new story.

Josh also visited with Gaige regularly and went on adventures with him whenever and wherever they wished, as often as Gaige desired. Gaige simply thought about him coming over -- kind of mental telepathy and prayer wrapped in one -- and Josh was there as soon as Gaige was ready. It was as if Josh knew in advance what Gage was thinking and was just waiting for him to invite Josh over.  

After several extended conversations, Josh told Gaige he is free to stay here forever. In fact, he reveals to him this was his plan from the first day he showed up at the abandoned building Gaige lived in. 

Gaige is shocked when he also found out Josh heard on the streets the gang figured out where Gaige lived and was coming to kill him the day before they were planning to leave. That's why Josh sent him out on errands so Gaige would be spared and Josh be killed instead. In fact, this was the necessary and decided plan between Josh and his father from the start, in order to bring Gaige to this new place. It turns out there could be no unresolved debts, obligations or offenses of any kind from the past in order to live there. So he deliberately allowed the consequence of Gaige's offense to be taken out on him. Plus Gaige would never have the resources necessary to rent even a small place on this island, much less own the whole blasted thing.

For those hearing this for the first time, some may be wondering how Josh came back to life? Well, let's just say it has to do with the strength and power of the love Josh's Father had for Josh, and he for his Father. A love so intense and powerful that it actually somehow generates life itself. Crazy right?! Gaige also finds out that this very same love is mysteriously the source of the life and beauty of this breathtaking new place he is now living in. 

It turns out Josh and his Father not only own this chain of islands Gaige lived among but actually own the entire world the islands are on. In fact, they own an unlimited number of worlds like it, but different at the same time. Worlds Gaige was free to travel to and visit by that same crazy mental telepathy thing. Each planet was equally exotic yet totally unique. Some were mountainous or winter wonderlands, and some were entirely water with a vast number of Islands, but most were a combination of various climates and geographies. 

As Gaige considers all that his "homeless" friend has told him and takes it all in, Josh and Gaige both stand there together smiling, Gaige's eyes watering up in joy with a huge grin breaking out on his face so big it would normally hurt but doesn't -- it only increases his longing and pleasure -- because there's simply no pain in this new place. 

This is not

THE END… 

Just the beginning.

"...Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and the sea was no more. And I saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, "Behold, the dwelling place of God is with man. He will dwell with them, and they will be his people, and God himself will be with them as their God. He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away."  And he who was seated on the throne said, "Behold, I am making all things new." Also he said, "Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true." 

And he said to me, "It is done! I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end. To the thirsty I will give from the spring of the water of life without payment." Rev 21:1-6

*The name Joshua is equivalent to Jesus, also pronounced yehōshūa. It means “Yahweh is deliverance” or “opulence”

Fidus amor is latin for “true love”... “Fin amor”, is “derived from Latin fidus, ‘faithful’. Originally, fin amor ment "admirable and refined" because it was faithful, by definition. So the term, fin amor, comes from Latin, as do many other word constructions in the romance languages.

Gaige (gauge) suggests someone calculated and measured.

Latin definition for: patiens

1.     patient/long-suffering

2.     submissive/liable/susceptible to

3.     tolerant/easy-going

Once they got settled in at the island Josh gave Gaige a new 1st name - Pret, short for Pretium (which is Latin for redemption, ransom, price, value, ransoming, reward). But that's covered in another story.