Seeing God's love in our pain

"that I may know him (Christ) and the fellowship of his suffering's…" - Phil 3:10

What is the "fellowship of Christ's sufferings" that Paul desires to take part in (and we are also invited to by his example)? Whatever it is, it is connected to our getting to know Christ better i.e. in order to know Christ more fully we must know (experience) the "fellowship of his sufferings..."

What about our suffering? Does it help us to see and know Christ better? How?

Simply stated, if we are to fully know and appreciate Christ and what He did for us and the depth of His love, we must see Christ's pain and enter it through our own i.e. we share in (fellowship with) His pain through our own. 

But how are our pain and experiencing Christ's love connected?

Our pain helps us to more fully understand, appreciate, and sympathize with Christ's. The greater our pain, the greater our potential understanding of Christ's, i.e. we can relate to Christ's pain better because of our own. 

Whenever we are in pain, we should reflect on Christ's ³struggles and the pain he went through for us. The more fully we experience pain the more deeply we can enter into His.

The more we see and enter into His pain through our own, the more we can also see the depth of his love that moved Christ to suffer on our behalf. 

Seeing the depths of his love causes us to love him more.  

If you wish to love him more, be grateful for your pain, if only because of how it reveals to you Christ and His love for you more fully.

Let's expand this further.

The more we see His pain, (which ultimately we caused) the more fully and deeply we see the ¹greatness of His love that moved Him to embrace our pain (and the consequences of the pain we cause others) so He might free us from condemnation rightfully due us for the harm/pain we cause others. 

Grasping the depth of Christ's pain rarely happens without us first going through our own pain. The greater ²our pain, the more fully we can appreciate ²His i.e. we are better able to understand and "fellowship" with Him in His sufferings through our own suffering, and also more fully enter His love. 

We are also reminded that because of his pain, he understands and appreciates ours better as well. You could say He is better able to fellowship with us in our pain because of His own. We are united with Christ in and through our mutual suffering.

15 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. 16 Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need. Heb 4

Pain can help produce two overriding positive outcomes if we let it. 

1. It can humble us by revealing the depths of our need and inability to cope with the pain in this life alone, i.e. without God.

2. It can cause us to more fully appreciate the sufferings of Christ and the greatness of his love that moved him to suffer on our behalf.

For these reasons, we should never shrink back from pain, but be thankful for it. In doing so, it enables us to more fully see and take part in his great love.

If you want to know your level of trust in Christ and the strength of your love for Him, ask yourself how much pain are you willing to go through for His sake? This is a question I ask myself often.    

"“This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you.."

"By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers."

For a further discussion of how God uses evil for our good click here...and here. 

The greater the evil the greater the opportunity for healing/ grace click here.

For a discussion on the key lesson from the book of Job click here.

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¹When people question the goodness and love of God because of all the pain in the world (including their own) they miss the bigger picture and cannot see that Christ took on the pain of the world and let it kill him so he might ultimately free the world and us from it.

 

The big question isn't why God allows good people to suffer, but why He allowed Christ - the best and only perfect person - to suffer. And maybe a more important question... what is the Father saying to us and about us by allowing it? Until we answer these questions, we can never fully understand, accept, and willingly (gratefully) embrace our own pain. 

We are so jaded towards God that we forget that God so loved the world he gave. The greatness of love is measured by the greatness of the gift. 

And what did God give? His very own Son (think of Abraham being asked and willing to sacrifice his son Isaac). The Son of his infinite and eternal affections. Christ's death was not barbaric, it was an expression of extreme love.

The whole notion that the infinite and all-powerful Creator and Sustainer of everthing would take on human form and even consider going through undeserved pain for our benefit is mind-boggling if we stop and reflect deeply on this.

The Father and Son fully understand pain because they fully embraced and experienced it themselves. The Father embraced the pain of giving up the Son of His eternal affections and the Son embraced His greatest pain by allowing it to separate him from the eternal affection of His Father for a time. This "severing" of their relationship was a far greater pain than any physical suffering.

The only reason that people continue in pain after this life is because they refuse to see God's remedy, which is Christ and all He suffered (willingly) at the hands of ungrateful and wicked men for our sake.

²Particularly for condemnation, persecution, and rejection.

³Has someone closest to you ever betrayed you? Have you ever had anyone twist your words, misrepresent you, and speak ill of you or not come through on their commitments or promises to you? Have you ever been unappreciated for a sacrificial service to others? Have you ever had anybody forsake you in your greatest hour of need? Christ experienced these and far more with one big difference. He never complained and did nothing to deserve it. And He did all this for us and to honor His Father.