The necessity and fear of trust

The necessity and fear of trust

Trust is a huge and necessary part of everything we do. Why?

1. We are finite. We don't know everything, can't see everything and can't do everything (though most of us try and like to believe we can) so we must move forward trusting others, counting on and depending on them for certain things to happen. 

2. We were never designed to go at life alone i.e. To operate without God first or others.

However, trust is very hard for us because we are damaged goods. Because of our disconnection from the source of love and life we suffered -- and still do -- a deep wound. Our souls are now raw and bleeding. Yet we rarely are conscious of this condition because we try to numb and bury our pain by using Gods gifts to ease it. 

We only become aware when that which we use to cover and ease our pain is ripped away. As a result we have a deep-seated underlining distrust and fear of being harmed again; of reopening the wound - i.e. of not being loved.

All of this is due to our disconnection from and distrust of the Source of life and love - i.e. The root cause of our damage. 

As a result of this disconnection, we feel we are on our own and must ensure our own safety, care and love.

Yet we can't. We must trust someone. The question is who. Is it God or ourselves.

What's really inside?

The true state of the ¹human heart (and condition) is often not evident until everything that we depend on to gain a sense of meaning and value is stripped away.

What surfaces emotionally when you're really cold, really sick, really tired, really hungry, totally alone or in any other state of extended deprivation? 

What if you also find yourself in one (or possibly several) of these circumstances with no hope of relief? What surfaces then? (think of Job)

Whatever it is... fear, anxiety, anger, complaining, whining etc... this brings to the surface who you really are; the real you. Not a flattering picture. But not an uncommon one either.

We all do well when things go well. It's when they go wrong that we find out what we're truly made of, i.e. the true state of our being.

When everything is stripped away, it becomes very clear that we are dependent (our true state of being), very rebellious, and rather miserable (our true condition) creatures, who are often ungrateful.

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¹I am making the distinction between "heart" and "condition" and suggest that "heart" addresses who we really are - i.e. creatures dependent on our Creator - and "condition" with those circumstances we find ourselves in; circumstances that create pain and suffering which bring to the surface what's in our heart. Possibly too fine or unclear a distinction?

Feedback is always welcomed. Nothing I post is final simply because I know much of our (my) heart is hidden from us (me), which in turn, affects our (my) thoughts and ability to see clearly.

willing---> desiring ---> loving

We choose/will what we desire and we desire what we love.

So how does this play out with "free will?" The will is not free in the sense that it is it's own independent agent. We will what we desire i.e. our wills are tied to our desires. And we desire what we love and we love what gives us the greatest sense of meaning, value, purpose etc.

However what if there is something out there that gives a greater sense of meaning than what we now know and are aware of. In fact this "something" gives the greatest sense of meaning/value/purpose possible. It exists objectively, but subjectively to us, it does not. How can we choose such an "object?" We can not and will not. How can we if we don't know it exists. So free will is not our problem. Blindness is. We can not will/choose and pursue that which we can't see and therefore have no knowledge of.  

So we go after that which our senses tell us does the best job of satisfying our need.

But here's a more fundamental question. Why do we need at all? What do we need?

The simple fact of our finiteness requires us to depend on certain things in order to do, know and live etc.

We are not self-sufficient in the absolute sense. Physically alone we must have water, air, food, shelter at a minimum. Beyond these we desire far more.

How about emotionally? Do we need anything? Well, studies show we need love. If infants are not touched and handled in a way that communicates they are cared for, they do not mature properly and can literally die. Curious, isn't it. Why is this? The common theme of everyone who unsuccessfully attempts suicide is life no longer had meaning, purpose or any hope of these and it was simply too unbearably painful to function this way. If I die, hopefully, the pain will stop. This is why simply showing genuine care for someone in this condition can turn them around. It tells them they actually are important after all - to at least you. 

So what is it we need exactly. We need to be valued, important, of worth in the eyes of another. Some try to satisfy this need through self-treatment so to speak... self-love, self-medication if you will...but nothing works completely and sufficiently except a relationship with the Source of life love and all things...God himself.

The humility of God?

Normally when we think of God, humility does not come to mind, does it? 

Is humility a part of God's character? It may be far more then we previously considered. Let's see.

What is interesting about the Spirit of God is the Spirit (always in the feminine gender in OT Hebrew) is equally God along with the Father and the Son.

Yet the Spirit primarily remains behind the scenes, always pointing us to the Father and the Son - and revealing to us the Son and his words. Seemingly the opposite of the Father who is always calling us to recognize the greatness of his glory.

The Spirit is called the Spirit of glory (IPet 4:14) but we are never directly told to glorify the Spirit. The Spirit is always revealing, glorifying, enabling and pointing us to glorify others (the Father and Son). 

The contrast is important and significant. This tells us God is not only all glorious but as the Spirit, is all humble as well. The Holy Spirit is truly multifacited and asks nothing of us (i.e. to humble ourself) that the Spirit (God) doesn't also fully take part in. 

Part of what makes God so great is God - as Spirit - is also so humble and other oriented; not by necessity but by choice. 

We also see this same quality in Christ.

Mat 11:29  Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly (humble, cast down, humiliated - in the original) in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.

Php 2:6-8 ...who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped (seized, held fast), but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.

In addition to the above, it requires greater humility to go from being God to being a man than it does from being rebelliously independent and untrusting creatures to our true status of dependent creatures e.g. going from a penthouse to an outhouse (Christ's humbling) is a far greater step down than moving from a large house to a small one (our humbling). 

The steps God took to bring his love to us were far greater steps of humility than we will ever take - or be able to - for Him. 

Is God self centered? Click here. 

"free" will or heavily influenced?

I find human behavior fascinating - my own included e.g. "...why did I do THAT?!" 

In light of this, I found the below video fascinating.

This demonstrates that even though we have "free wills," (everyone made their own choice to stand up in the below video) our wills are heavily (if not completely) influenced by our need for acceptance/approval/ love and what we BELIEVE we must do to gain or achieve these. Click the following to see...

https://youtu.be/MEhSk71gUCQ

Being influenced for good

How do we counter being tossed about by our own weakness and need for approval and submitting to the actions of others as in the video above?

When our identity is strongly anchored in Christ - he fully loves and accepts us no matter what we go through or what others think, do, or say - we are not so easily swayed.  The more grounded we are in his love the less likely we are to be swayed. This is likely why dictatorships do not like "religious" beliefs and most aggressively try to oppress and outlaw Christianity (or other faiths). We are not as easily influenced by their dictates - because we are more influenced by God's. God is a direct threat to raw unbridled ¹government power and control. 

How much of your behavior is dictated by what OTHERS think, do, or say? e.g. When the polls go contrary to your views, does that affect you and make you reconsider your position? What if you are the only one that takes the view you do? If you are not influenced, you are either very principled, with strong convictions or you have a strong personality and are more a leader than a follower (the former usually produces the latter).

If you are anchored in Christ, this will instill in you a strength you did not have before to do what you are convinced (believe) is right in the face of opposition (knowing we honor God and there are eternal rewards for faithfulness to Him, no matter what, instills great courage and steadfastness). This is the essence of leadership; courage in the face of great opposition. 

For a discussion on how our "wanter" is broken, not our "chooser" click here.

For a discussion on the role of government for a follower of Christ click here. 

For a discussion on how we find the strength to deny ourselves, click here. 

Obedience... evidence of love

"If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just (in the exact same way) as I have kept my Father's commandments and abide in his love." - Jesus. Joh 15:10    

Is abiding in God's love something earned? It can't be because Christ himself, who is fully loved by the Father, experienced his father's love by abiding in it. 

Note how this verse ties abiding in Gods love to keeping his commandments. Keeping God's Commandments does not cause God to love us no more than it causes the Father to love the Son. Obedience however is a means of our participation in it.

In the same way that Christ obeyed his Father, he's calling us to obey him. In so doing we will experience the love of God in the same way that Christ experienced it.

This also is suggested in the following verses. 

Joh 14:21  Whoever has my commandments and keeps them, he it is who loves me. And he who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I will love him and manifest myself to him." 

Joh 14:23  Jesus answered him, "If anyone loves me, he will keep my word, and my Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him. 

From the above two verses we see the dynamic that drives us in keeping God's commandments is our love for him, while at the same time keeping his commandments becomes the means by which we participate or partake  more fully in his unearned love secured for us in and by Christ. 

Both of these verses indicate our experience (subjectively) of God's love and presence is tied to our obedience. This is not the same as causing God to love us. God's love (objectively) is secured for us by Christ's efforts, not our own. 

Our obedience to God is the fruit of our trust in God and the greatest evidence of our love for God.

If we truly believe he loves us we will have no problem doing what he tells us to do. The more we trust in God's love the easier it is to follow his commandments i.e. they are not a burden to carry out.

1Jn 5:3  For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments. And his commandments are not burdensome. 

Thinking--->emotions-->willing

Is there a connection between our affections and our wills?

Yes. We choose (will) what affects us most (creates affection/desire) ; what most draws or allures us. What moves us to action (will) is what moves us emotionally (affectionately) first i.e. we are moved into action by our emotions.

Break down the word and consider its meaning. It consists of two parts. Emotion = e and motion.

Willing ourselves to act contrary to our desires wears us out and does not last long term.

What creates e-motions?

When we behold something beautiful and attractive, we are excited and drawn to it. We are moved (affected) to act/action. Likewise, when we see something unattractive, we are repelled. This too is movement to action but away from and not towards something.

What about our minds?

But isn't our mind involved also? Yes, what we think (believe) to be most valuable is most desirable and what we choose (will) to pursue.

However, what is truly desirable (objectively) and what we think is desirable (subjectively) are not necessarily one and the same.

What we think is desirable is only what we can see as desirable. If we are blind how can we see that which is truly most desirable?

Because we are spiritually dead we are also spiritually blind. Our problem is the greatest beauty lies beyond the physical and is found in the spiritual. A spiritually dead person can see nothing of the Spirit. God, who is Spirit, must reveal himself. 

How do we know God is beautiful? Do we have any indications?

Just look around you. There is great ugliness and pain in the world but there is also great beauty. Everything beautiful about creation comes from the Creator and reveals something of him. Likewise, everything destructive that disfigures creation comes from our rebellion to Him. The creation is in bondage due to that rebellion. 

How do we behold God, who is beautiful, clearly?

When we see him face-to-face. But that is not possible in our present state so now we behold him by faith or "through a glass darkly." We believe he is who he claims and promises to be.

How do we know God's promises are true?

He proved them to be true by his actions.

And what action did God take to prove he's truthful and most trustworthy?

Even after we rejected God, he chose to pursue us and disrupted his world of bliss, by stepping into our world of pain as a man, 

to pursue and embrace us in our brokenness and self-inflicted pain out of his infinite love,

allowing this to kill him so that he might deliver us and our world out of pain;

not because he needed to but simply because he is love and loves us that much.

The more clearly we see him (mind/belief), the more we value him and greater we desire him (affection/emotion) and choose (will) to passionately pursue him.