1. Make life work best
2. Get what we ¹need or want
3. Protect ourselves -- e.g. self-defense mechanisms...
We develop unsound patterns of behavior from the ²earliest stages of life. These patterns become embedded into our personality
and character early on - i.e. how we relate to life and others - in such a deep and subtle way, we are not fully ²conscious of
them and how broken we and these patterns are i.e. we have unconsciously developed deeply imbedded patterns of brokenness by which we operate.
Only over time, as we come to see and trust in the fullness of God's infinite love for us, are we able to acknowledge, turn from and no longer allow these broken patterns to hold us back and cripple us with shame and self-condemnation but ultimately
However, seeing them is only the first step to overcoming them. But a vital step. We can not rise above and overcome a destructive behavior pattern or character flaw if we first don't know it exists.
These tendencies are also so embedded they never completely go away. They become a fixed part of our personality.
Once we are ³aware of these patterns and
But neither do these tendencies have to control
and dominate us. As we come to know and trust in God's infinite love, God becomes the dominant force/driver in our life/conduct instead of these deeply embedded
and broken patterns. Though the tendencies and our inclination to them remain, we are increasingly freed from our brokenness and empowered to rise above and overcome it through our constantly growing trust in God's unrelenting love. It is our trust in His love that enables us to overcome these tendencies. As our trust grows, so does our ability to break free. God's love, instead of our broken
attempts of self-love and self-deliverance, becomes the primary influence/force/drive behind our
behavior.
As we learn to trust his infinite love we find it superior to our finite self-loving (expressed in and through our embedded tendencies and broken patterns of living and relating to the world and others) and we become more and more freed from these attempts to secure life for and by ourselves.
As we learn to trust his infinite love we find it superior to our finite self-loving (expressed in and through our embedded tendencies and broken patterns of living and relating to the world and others) and we become more and more freed from these attempts to secure life for and by ourselves.
Awareness of these areas of brokenness and
God's ceaseless super-abounding love in spite of them is key to being free.
To say it another way, our points
of brokenness/greatest weakness also become the points at which we must depend
on God most to overcome them, which is a good thing, not bad.
"... where sin increased, grace abounded all the
more," Rom 5:20b
"..
¹think of an infant crying when they are hungry, tired, or need a dry diaper. The crying itself is not wrong (no more than praying is). It is how we let others know our needs before we
At our earliest stages, we learn patterns of behavior to get/take what we need. God is not part of the equation in this development (unless our parents lovingly, constantly, and patiently point us to God as the ultimate source of all we need and they as
²There is even a field of study called
Only constant reminders of
³Being challenged beyond our
“natural” abilities to cope, surfaces these broken patterns revealing them and
their inadequacy to aid us in handling challenges.
I have natural in quotations because
these broken patterns are coping mechanisms we have developed by using our
natural abilities along with any external resources to help us cope.
These challenges can be as extreme pain and suffering beyond our natural ability to endure or obedience
(exertion) beyond our natural ability to carry it out.
⁴As our confidence in God's love exceeds our dependence on our broken patterns of relating, God's love becomes the new driving force in our life and behavior. When our confidence in God's love drops below - is less influential than our dependence on these default behavior patterns to make life work without God, we fall back into those tendencies and patterns.
Over time, as our faith matures, our confidence in God's love becomes more consistent so
that we are less inclined to fall back into our broken default patterns. But
those patterns are always there. What changes is our confidence in God's
love... it increases, i.e. The primary force that drives our behavior is no
longer dependent on the old broken, default patterns but instead on God's love.
God's love is eternal because God is eternal. God loves us not for a moment in time as we see it, He loves us eternally because He cannot go against His character. God's eternal love will be with us for all eternity. It, His love for us, is not based on us, our deserving His love, but solely on His compassion, mercy and grace. This has always been and will ever be. Pray for all to receive God's grace as a result of His eternal love, in Christ Jesus.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the feedback. I totally agree. Is your cooemnt related to the post or a separate unrelated thought?
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p.s. Is this Alex?