Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Where does desire come from?


Where does desire come from?
(Are our desires good or bad?)


Why do we desire at all? It is because we are lacking. We want because we do not have. What is it that we want/desire? We desire significance, meaning, importance, love, pleasure etc. What gives us pleasure? Anything that makes us feel important, significant, desired, loved i.e. good about ourselves. This is what we all long for.

Why do we have the need to feel important significant, valuable? Because God designed us this was. In a word, he designed us for love; to be loved.

Why did He design us that way? To be in relationship with Him. In order for us to be in relationship with Him we had to be like Him. And what is He like? He is important significant and valuable. In order for us to appreciate His importance’s significance and value we had to be designed to appreciate it. 

Since God is this way and designed us for a relationship with Him we must be able to appreciate and enjoy His importance significance and value. In order for us to appreciate this, we must derive a sense of importance significance and value from enjoying this in Him. 

The very definition of relationship is two beings giving and receiving something from each other; interacting with each other. In order to give God glory i.e. recognize His importance significance and value and to receive and enjoy Him, we had to have the capacity to enjoy His glory. In order to do so He designed us in such as way that we could be in a relationship with Him, hence our need for importance significance and value. 

To restate it simply, we cannot enjoy and appreciate Gods great worth if we do not have the ability to appreciate it and feel the desire for or want it. The greater our capacity to appreciate and value (glorify) Him the greater our ability to appreciate and value Him.

Desiring to be safe and secure, loved, valued, happy etc are all good desires. All desires put in us by God and part of us being created in His image so we can have a relationship with Him. The issue is not our desires but who do we look to, to fulfill them.

Our desires are:

·        A part of our being in God’s image

But also the result of…

·        Being separated from God

So there is a good element to our desires. Being in God’s image so we can enjoy, worship and glorify God. But there is a bad element as well. We are separated from God and therefore now lacking what we were designed to experience in Him…love, joy, peace, pleasure, value, importance, meaning and so on. Because we are separated from the source of our true fulfillment due to distrust and rejection of our Father/Creator, we go about seeking to fill that lack with anything and everything but that which can truly and only fill it, God Himself.

Because we have spent all our lives attempting to satisfy our desires with anything but that which can truly satisfy them, our desires are stymied, suppressed. As C.S. Lewis stated,

“It would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.”

By weak desires, I mean we have the capacity for much greater desires but there is nothing in this life to satisfy our truest, strongest and deepest desires, so we just keep them in check with temporary things. We anesthetize our longings. To allow our true longings to fully surface would be too painful.

This is only because we refuse trusting God to give us what we need and long for.


However as we grow to trust God and let go of those things we use to anesthetize our longings, our capacity to receive His love increases. As that capacity increases our longings also increase. We feel more because our capacity to feel more has grown. We are being restored to our original state of finding and enjoying God as our only and true satisfier of our hearts. 



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