The disdain that many unbelievers have for "Christianity" is sometimes 100% justified.
How?
Their disdain is usually toward the pretense and hypocrisy among those who claim to believe in God. Yet Christ himself also disdained and even condemned this attitude and behavior.
Pretense and hypocrisy are far too common among churchgoers. But why?
Because of a performance or works-based approach to "Christianity" i.e. legalism - which is not true Christianity at all, but only gives the appearance of being Christian. In reality, it is the opposite of and opposed to the gospel of grace, the essence of Christ's message.
Unlike a heart "ruled" by grace, performance-based "Christianity" is based on self-salvation which leads to pretense, pride, and hypocrisy. It rejects the necessity of the work of Christ to restore us to the Father - not rejection with their words necessarily (many say the "right things") but in their heart - and believes we can save ourselves without God and His Son, i.e. we don't need the righteousness of Christ assigned to us because of our unrighteousness. To believe this is to also believe our deeds are somehow better than Christ's.
This is actually an insult to Christ, and all He did to restore us back to a right standing with His Father. In effect, we are saying Christ's work is useless, worthless, and unnecessary because ours is superior.
This approach was also the very same issue Christ had with the self-righteous religious leaders of His day.
How does this self-righteousness develop?
Many, who live in the Christian community and profess to be Christians, are aware of the high ¹moral standards Christ calls us to e.g. love your enemies, love God with all you are and have, always treat others as you wish to be treated, be grateful for all things at all times, especially the hard stuff etc.
But they do not know the power necessary to live these out - i.e. a heart moved by love, not by ²mere will power.
So on the outside and before others, they pretend to live by those standards because they know this is what is expected of a "good Christian." But behind closed doors, and out of the public eye, their true self is ³revealed.
This is especially true for those closest to them, particularly their children. The criticism often leveled at these so-called "Christians" is they expect others to do as they say but not as they do.
But outward "obedience" only is not true obedience. True faithfulness springs forth from the heart of someone who knows they are truly unrighteous yet infinitely and perfectly loved at the same time. As a result their righteousness is a response of loving faithfulness to God in return, not an attempt to be good enough to earn God's acceptance.
As Christ said, "If you love me you will keep my commandments..." It doesn't say keep my commands to win my love or impress me and others by your wisdom.
This was the problem of the Pharisees during the time of Christ. They were all about appearance and pretense to gain the praise of men. They were not about substance - i.e. true faithfulness out of a heart moved by love for God.
Ironically, those unbelievers who disdain hypocrisy are far more aligned with Christ in this one vital area than many who profess to be Christians.
For a fuller discussion about hypocrisy click here
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Why Christ came with grace not just truth click here _____________________________________
Footnotes:
¹Also common among those who are legalistic is an overbearing and condescending emphasis on "right doctrine." These self-proclaimed "defenders of truth" can sometimes recite the various teachings in the Bible impeccably, sometimes better than some true lovers of Jesus, but it is from their heads, not their hearts. There is no grace or humility in there criticism of others. It is the fruit of arrogance, not a humble heart, that seeks to honor God by being faithful to His words.
Those who are like this tend to always be on a spiritual witch hunt to expose those who do not cross their doctrinal T's and I's perfectly according to them.
However, correctly comprehending things is not the same as believing them. We can comprehend and even explain things perfectly but that doesn't mean we believe them. And faith in the work of Christ for us - i.e. the gospel - is central to being a true follower of Christ, not perfect doctrine.
²Our wills are certainly involved but not to "obedience" - i.e. outward conformity to prescribed behavior - but to faith. We must either believe the gospel of grace and God's infinite love that comes to us by it or we do not believe it. This is the true and legitimate exercise of our will and the choice we are
called to make.
Then they said to him, “What must we do, to be doing the works of God?” Jesus answered them, “This is the work of God, that you believe in him whom he has sent.”- John 6:28-29
³And no one sees this better than our own kids or family. "Do as I say and not as I do" is a common expression used by parents when their kids or extended family push back on the inconsistency between their private life and their public life. This is common among those who are superficial in their Christianity and may be an indication that they are not a true follower of Christ at all.
For any kids that had such parents growing up, don't miss the true message of Jesus and the good news he offers of crediting his good deeds to us as if we did them and the removal of our condemnation for our rebellion to Him.
